Why Being Forced to Date Is Disgusting and Not Romantic?

Also known as, "What would you do if you were forced to date someone?"

I saw some scenes from this movie, and it really pissed me off. Why?

What happened in the movie?

There was this guy standing on the edge of a building, ready to jump to his death. He wore a sign. Can't quite remember the exact words, but it basically boiled down to, "Go out with me, or I will jump down from this building and kill myself."

Naturally, a crowd had gathered to watch the spectacle. The girl this guy wanted to date was also there. Every single person amongst the crowd was pressuring her into saying yes to the guy already.

The girl clearly looked conflicted. But you could see that the pressure was getting to her. Everyone there was making her feel guilty with their words.

The guy who wanted to date her moved even closer to the edge of the building. He looked like he was about to topple over any second now, which just added more pressure to the girl.

In the end, the girl yelled, "Stop," just before the guy could jump.

The next scene showed the 2 of them together. The girl was introducing the guy to her family as her boyfriend while the guy had a smug smirk on his face.

After that, I just couldn't watch it anymore.

With the way the entire scene played out, with the way the girl was forced to date the guy, he might as well have threatened her with a knife especially considering what little choice she got. Worse, people actually cheered for this guy, who has absolutely no sense of respect for women, and basically helped him guilt and pressure the girl into agreeing to date him.

What to hate about this scene?

What's not to hate? How could this scene ever be considered right? The guy claims to love the girl, but if he really loved her, then why would he force her to go out with him? Why would he resort to trying to guilt her and pressure her into going out with him?

To make things worse, everyone present in that scene was on the guy's side. They all thought the girl should say yes to him and stop him from jumping.

And, sure, the guy shouldn't kill himself and all that, but why should the responsibility to stop him fall on the girl?

Shouldn't the girl get a choice on who she does and doesn't date? It's her life. Why should she be forced to date a guy she doesn't like just to stop him from killing himself?

Someone there should have called the police or the firemen to try and get the guy down from the building.

Real love is earned, not forced or coerced

The girl shouldn't have been made to do something she clearly didn't want to do. Honestly, someone should have told the guy to grow up, to accept the girl's choice even if it wasn't him.

If he really loved her, he should have been able to let her go, should have been able to let her be happy, should have been able to let her decide things for herself instead of being forced and guilted into it.

Is that a smirk or what? The guy in the movie was looking all smug too when he finally got the girl to go out with him. He was smirking and looking so pleased with himself while the girl was forced to introduce him to her family as her boyfriend. He has no right to claim he loves her when he doesn't even respect her and her right to choose and feel how she wants to.

Taking away someone's right to choose is NOT romantic

As if that wasn't enough, the movie clearly thought this was romantic. It was obvious from the get-go that these 2 were going to be the end couple, which just made me hate it even more. How could this be touted as true love if the guy couldn't even respect the girl he supposedly loves? Ugh.

You'd feel all the more infuriated when you see the guy's smug smirk while the girl was introducing him to her family as her boyfriend. He looked so pleased with himself since he got what he wanted, so much so that I had the urge to wipe that smirk off his face.

Guys like him are completely horrible and despicable. Am I the only one who thinks this scene isn't at all romantic? Am I the only one who thinks this can't possibly be classified as true love? Am I the only one who felt so bad for the girl since she didn't get a choice in this at all?

Your thoughts and opinions

What do you think about this? Feel free and welcome to share your thoughts and opinions by leaving a comment below.

Here are some of the comments from this article, back when it used to be posted elsewhere:

Brian Leverton wrote on 30/10/16
Well we all should be free to do what we want but definitely not to use guilt in love.

Bozena Wojtaszek wrote on 20/10/16
Old good rule comes to mind - we don't negotiate with terrorists, period.

Luciaanna Luciaanna replied to Bozena Wojtaszek on 21/10/16
So true, Bozena

*Notes:
- This was previously published on Niume on 18 Oct 2016 in Movies & Series
- First pic with added text was modified by Freya Yuki using Canva based on the image by Rusembell (CC:BY) from deviantArt
- Second pic is by cabepfir (CC:BY-ND) from deviantArt
- Third pic with added text was modified by Freya Yuki (CC:BY-SA) using Canva based on the image by lilie-morhiril (CC:BY-SA) from deviantArt

Why This Movie's Romantic Plot Will Surprise You

Also known as, "Why this movie annoyed me at first?" and "Why you don't need to be with your first love?"

So, I saw this movie, not that I was intending to watch it or anything. It was more of just flipping through the channels and coming across said film.

A cliché love story

Anyway, the story’s pretty cliché. Girl falls in love with boy. They end up together. They break up. Years later, they meet again and they end up having to work together. You know where this is going, right?

Once upon a time, the girl and the boy were together. But they broke up. The boy moved on and is now very happy with someone else. Unfortunately, the same couldn't be said about the girl.

The girl is still in love with the guy and wants to get back together with him, but the guy already has a girlfriend. Said girlfriend is conveniently not around at the moment though. You know, so the two ex-lovers can spend more time together. Cliché? Yeah, I know.

The movie really makes you think the 2 will end up back together, which is not nice in the least makes for a bad plot. Okay, scratch that. I would have used a strikethrough, but it looks like the Niume editor doesn't have that feature. Or am I just missing something? Oh, well-

Edited to add: Niume may not have this feature, but the Google Blogger post editor sure does, so, here, have a strikethrough.

Anyway, it's not just "not nice," it's horribly cliché in an annoying, unoriginal and uninspired way, like, can't they come up with something a little more different? How many times has this entire scenario played out? Seriously?

How could cheating on someone you love ever be a good thing?

We soon meet the girlfriend and she’s actually nice. What’s not nice is how her boyfriend is cheating on her behind her back. The nerve and the gall of that guy especially considering how nice and kind his current girlfriend is. How infuriating.

What I did like was that the movie actually gave the girlfriend a pretty likable personality. Usually, the current girlfriend will be shown to be a bad person and one who is clearly not good for the guy just so the guy can end up back together with his first girlfriend.

The guy's girlfriend was actually pretty nice and kind, which was rather surprising since, usually, the current girlfriend will be turned into an unlikable person just so the guy can get back together with his first love.

I don't like that because why do you have to turn a woman into some evil devil or something just to justify the romance between the main characters? It should be perfectly possible to have the guy get back together with his first girlfriend without turning his current girlfriend into a horrible person.

This reminds me of The Wedding Singer movie. In the beginning, the ex of the main male character played by Adam Sandler was portrayed as a likable person. She just wasn't right for the hero of the story, and that was perfectly okay. However, unfortunately, instead of sticking to this, the movie ended up turning the ex into an unlikable character just to create more tension and conflict.

Why would you break up with the person you love?

Anyway, we soon find out that the girl (the first girlfriend) started this mess. She’s the one who broke up with the guy and left him without explaining anything. Now she wants to get back together with him. Seriously, what’s wrong with her? They don’t deserve each other.

Movies shouldn't be so predictable

I keep expecting the 2 to end up back together and the girlfriend to be left all alone. I know, why am I still watching it, right? I don’t know, but I assure you, I was flipping through the channels a lot especially since some parts of this movie take way too much time (for example, when the guy and girl were talking to each other, that scene took forever to finish, I swear).

In the end, this movie turned out to be a pleasant surprise

Guess what, the movie wasn’t so annoying after all. Honestly, I was pleasantly surprised when the guy and girl didn’t end up back together. That’s right. You heard me. The guy went back to his nice and sweet girlfriend, and, as for the girl, well, she finally moved on.

Why can't people be single and happy?

I’d say she’s happily single, but the movie seems to think she can’t be truly happy without a guy because the end has her meeting several men. Ugh, I hate that trope.

I'll talk about it more in another post, but, seriously, how come people need to be with someone just to be happy? There are some who choose to be single and are perfectly happy to be single. There's nothing wrong with that, right? What do you think about all this?

Here are some of the comments from this article, back when it used to be posted elsewhere:

Zack Plourd wrote on 27/10/16:
This is a great opinion piece. But what's the name of the movie?

Freya Yuki replied to Zack Plourd on 29/10/16:
Thanks. Unfortunately, I didn't get to watch this movie from the beginning. I discovered it while I was flipping through channels, so I didn't get the title.

*Notes:
- First pic is by Rusembell (CC:BY) from deviantArt
- Second pic is by CoDLia (CC:BY-SA) from deviantArt
- This was previously published on Niume on October 25, 2016