I saw some scenes from this movie, and it really pissed me off. Why?
What happened in the movie?
There was this guy standing on the edge of a building, ready to jump to his death. He wore a sign. Can't quite remember the exact words, but it basically boiled down to, "Go out with me, or I will jump down from this building and kill myself."Naturally, a crowd had gathered to watch the spectacle. The girl this guy wanted to date was also there. Every single person amongst the crowd was pressuring her into saying yes to the guy already.
The girl clearly looked conflicted. But you could see that the pressure was getting to her. Everyone there was making her feel guilty with their words.
The guy who wanted to date her moved even closer to the edge of the building. He looked like he was about to topple over any second now, which just added more pressure to the girl.
In the end, the girl yelled, "Stop," just before the guy could jump.
The next scene showed the 2 of them together. The girl was introducing the guy to her family as her boyfriend while the guy had a smug smirk on his face.
After that, I just couldn't watch it anymore.
With the way the entire scene played out, with the way the girl was forced to date the guy, he might as well have threatened her with a knife especially considering what little choice she got. Worse, people actually cheered for this guy, who has absolutely no sense of respect for women, and basically helped him guilt and pressure the girl into agreeing to date him.
What to hate about this scene?
What's not to hate? How could this scene ever be considered right? The guy claims to love the girl, but if he really loved her, then why would he force her to go out with him? Why would he resort to trying to guilt her and pressure her into going out with him?To make things worse, everyone present in that scene was on the guy's side. They all thought the girl should say yes to him and stop him from jumping.
And, sure, the guy shouldn't kill himself and all that, but why should the responsibility to stop him fall on the girl?
Shouldn't the girl get a choice on who she does and doesn't date? It's her life. Why should she be forced to date a guy she doesn't like just to stop him from killing himself?
Someone there should have called the police or the firemen to try and get the guy down from the building.
Real love is earned, not forced or coerced
The girl shouldn't have been made to do something she clearly didn't want to do. Honestly, someone should have told the guy to grow up, to accept the girl's choice even if it wasn't him.If he really loved her, he should have been able to let her go, should have been able to let her be happy, should have been able to let her decide things for herself instead of being forced and guilted into it.
Is that a smirk or what? The guy in the movie was looking all smug too when he finally got the girl to go out with him. He was smirking and looking so pleased with himself while the girl was forced to introduce him to her family as her boyfriend. He has no right to claim he loves her when he doesn't even respect her and her right to choose and feel how she wants to.
Taking away someone's right to choose is NOT romantic
As if that wasn't enough, the movie clearly thought this was romantic. It was obvious from the get-go that these 2 were going to be the end couple, which just made me hate it even more. How could this be touted as true love if the guy couldn't even respect the girl he supposedly loves? Ugh.You'd feel all the more infuriated when you see the guy's smug smirk while the girl was introducing him to her family as her boyfriend. He looked so pleased with himself since he got what he wanted, so much so that I had the urge to wipe that smirk off his face.
Guys like him are completely horrible and despicable. Am I the only one who thinks this scene isn't at all romantic? Am I the only one who thinks this can't possibly be classified as true love? Am I the only one who felt so bad for the girl since she didn't get a choice in this at all?
Your thoughts and opinions
What do you think about this? Feel free and welcome to share your thoughts and opinions by leaving a comment below.Here are some of the comments from this article, back when it used to be posted elsewhere:
Brian Leverton wrote on 30/10/16
Well we all should be free to do what we want but definitely not to use guilt in love.
Bozena Wojtaszek wrote on 20/10/16
Old good rule comes to mind - we don't negotiate with terrorists, period.
Luciaanna Luciaanna replied to Bozena Wojtaszek on 21/10/16
So true, Bozena
*Notes:
- This was previously published on Niume on 18 Oct 2016 in Movies & Series
- First pic with added text was modified by Freya Yuki using Canva based on the image by Rusembell (CC:BY) from deviantArt
- Second pic is by cabepfir (CC:BY-ND) from deviantArt
- Third pic with added text was modified by Freya Yuki (CC:BY-SA) using Canva based on the image by lilie-morhiril (CC:BY-SA) from deviantArt