Why Being Forced to Date Is Disgusting and Not Romantic?

Also known as, "What would you do if you were forced to date someone?"

I saw some scenes from this movie, and it really pissed me off. Why?

What happened in the movie?

There was this guy standing on the edge of a building, ready to jump to his death. He wore a sign. Can't quite remember the exact words, but it basically boiled down to, "Go out with me, or I will jump down from this building and kill myself."

Naturally, a crowd had gathered to watch the spectacle. The girl this guy wanted to date was also there. Every single person amongst the crowd was pressuring her into saying yes to the guy already.

The girl clearly looked conflicted. But you could see that the pressure was getting to her. Everyone there was making her feel guilty with their words.

The guy who wanted to date her moved even closer to the edge of the building. He looked like he was about to topple over any second now, which just added more pressure to the girl.

In the end, the girl yelled, "Stop," just before the guy could jump.

The next scene showed the 2 of them together. The girl was introducing the guy to her family as her boyfriend while the guy had a smug smirk on his face.

After that, I just couldn't watch it anymore.

With the way the entire scene played out, with the way the girl was forced to date the guy, he might as well have threatened her with a knife especially considering what little choice she got. Worse, people actually cheered for this guy, who has absolutely no sense of respect for women, and basically helped him guilt and pressure the girl into agreeing to date him.

What to hate about this scene?

What's not to hate? How could this scene ever be considered right? The guy claims to love the girl, but if he really loved her, then why would he force her to go out with him? Why would he resort to trying to guilt her and pressure her into going out with him?

To make things worse, everyone present in that scene was on the guy's side. They all thought the girl should say yes to him and stop him from jumping.

And, sure, the guy shouldn't kill himself and all that, but why should the responsibility to stop him fall on the girl?

Shouldn't the girl get a choice on who she does and doesn't date? It's her life. Why should she be forced to date a guy she doesn't like just to stop him from killing himself?

Someone there should have called the police or the firemen to try and get the guy down from the building.

Real love is earned, not forced or coerced

The girl shouldn't have been made to do something she clearly didn't want to do. Honestly, someone should have told the guy to grow up, to accept the girl's choice even if it wasn't him.

If he really loved her, he should have been able to let her go, should have been able to let her be happy, should have been able to let her decide things for herself instead of being forced and guilted into it.

Is that a smirk or what? The guy in the movie was looking all smug too when he finally got the girl to go out with him. He was smirking and looking so pleased with himself while the girl was forced to introduce him to her family as her boyfriend. He has no right to claim he loves her when he doesn't even respect her and her right to choose and feel how she wants to.

Taking away someone's right to choose is NOT romantic

As if that wasn't enough, the movie clearly thought this was romantic. It was obvious from the get-go that these 2 were going to be the end couple, which just made me hate it even more. How could this be touted as true love if the guy couldn't even respect the girl he supposedly loves? Ugh.

You'd feel all the more infuriated when you see the guy's smug smirk while the girl was introducing him to her family as her boyfriend. He looked so pleased with himself since he got what he wanted, so much so that I had the urge to wipe that smirk off his face.

Guys like him are completely horrible and despicable. Am I the only one who thinks this scene isn't at all romantic? Am I the only one who thinks this can't possibly be classified as true love? Am I the only one who felt so bad for the girl since she didn't get a choice in this at all?

Your thoughts and opinions

What do you think about this? Feel free and welcome to share your thoughts and opinions by leaving a comment below.

Here are some of the comments from this article, back when it used to be posted elsewhere:

Brian Leverton wrote on 30/10/16
Well we all should be free to do what we want but definitely not to use guilt in love.

Bozena Wojtaszek wrote on 20/10/16
Old good rule comes to mind - we don't negotiate with terrorists, period.

Luciaanna Luciaanna replied to Bozena Wojtaszek on 21/10/16
So true, Bozena

*Notes:
- This was previously published on Niume on 18 Oct 2016 in Movies & Series
- First pic with added text was modified by Freya Yuki using Canva based on the image by Rusembell (CC:BY) from deviantArt
- Second pic is by cabepfir (CC:BY-ND) from deviantArt
- Third pic with added text was modified by Freya Yuki (CC:BY-SA) using Canva based on the image by lilie-morhiril (CC:BY-SA) from deviantArt

The Wedding Singer Movie Review: Why You Should Watch This Romance Film?

The Wedding Singer 1998 (#ad) American romantic comedy film is about the title character whose name is Robbie Hart (played by Adam Sandler). He becomes understandably depressed after he's left by the one who supposedly loves him.

He meets a charming and beautiful waitress named Julia Sullivan (played by Drew Barrymore). She may be the right one for him if they manage to get past the obstacles in their way.

The Wedding Singer is funny and romantic

This film isn’t a comedy in that you won’t be laughing out loud at regular intervals, but there are a number of pretty amusing scenes that can bring a smile to your face. The Wedding Singer can be described as sweet, romantic and even heartwarming.

The romance between the 2 main characters is developed in a believable and realistic way. They fall in love gradually. They don’t suddenly develop feelings for each other in the very first moment that they look into each other’s eyes.

Even the supporting characters (like Rosie (played by Ellen Albertini Dow)) make the film more interesting and amusing. Some of these minor characters can be quite adorable as they add more depth to the scenes that they appear in.

Misunderstanding scene is believable

There’s a misunderstanding scene between the 2 main characters (the part where Robbie goes to talk to Julia, but isn’t able to because of what he sees) that is done in a way that doesn’t seem contrived.

Airplane scene is enjoyable

Some scenes (like the airplane scene) might come across as unbelievable and yet it doesn’t detract from the story as these just make the movie much more enjoyable, amusing and touching.

Some characters are unlikable and horrible for plot convenience

However, The Wedding Singer isn’t without its flaws. The main characters were involved with other people even before they met. Of course, it’s a given that these people are not the right ones for them.

But the film should not have turned these people into unlikable characters just to get Robbie and Julia to leave them and get together instead.

It’s perfectly possible to ensure that the protagonists end up together instead of with their supposed significant others without giving those people a nasty and bad personality.

Making these people horrible and mean just makes parts of the movie unbelievable and unrealistic because it makes viewers wonder why and how Robbie and Julia could have gotten involved with these kinds of people in the first place.

Nonetheless, regardless of these flaws, the movie is still pretty good and it’s something that you can choose to watch if you’re looking for something romantic and heartwarming and yet with enough amusing scenes that can make you grin or smile.

Your thoughts and opinions

What do you think about all this? Feel free and welcome to share your thoughts and opinions by leaving a message in the comments section.

*Notes:
- Image with added text was modified by Freya Yuki based on the image by Rusembell (CC:BY) from deviantArt
- Couple in the image is meant to represent Robbie and Julia
- Second pic is from Amazon.com; link shown above
- YouTube video features a scene from The Wedding Singer